Beautifully Broken

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Many people feel a profound sense of shame for the difficult circumstances and seasons they’ve been through that cause them to feel damaged and broken. They feel humiliated about being in a situation that made them fall apart and have a need to put themselves back together. They want to hide those parts of their story. They might be willing to remember the lessons they learned from the hard times, but tend to gloss over the broken season where they felt lonely or scared or suffered through grief or depression.

Those universal feelings are regarded as weak, and society tells us they should remain hidden. Yet those feelings are the cords that really connect us. When someone takes a risk and shares their story with you, that identification affects your heart, and you don’t feel so much shame about your own story. C. S. Lewis once said, “Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another, “What? You too? I thought I was the only one!” We’re all so afraid of being real.

Part of my sense of feeling like I am enough right now, just the way I am, comes from those opportunities I have to be real with others. To think maybe the journey that has brought me here can have a redemptive aspect for others. I am certainly still healing from the pain in my life, I have some fresh wounds and some barely healed scars. Even as I’m waiting for a better life to start, I can provide others with encouragement, validation, and help them feel less alone in their darkest moments. I can choose to be brave and speak my truth. I can choose to not dwell on how hard things have been, to take care of myself, to take it slow, be patient with myself as I recover and heal, and to try to use the lessons I’ve been taught by the universe to help others.

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9 thoughts on “Beautifully Broken

  1. We are all broken, we are all flawed – it is this diversity that makes us human. It is something that we should not be ashamed of but celebrate the imperfections that make us oh so human.

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  2. You are a beautiful soul💜 Thank you for continuing to reach out to others…

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  3. And beautifully said DarcSunshine, Merry Christmas 🙂 Namaste

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  4. Hello my friend
    I know of only one perfect person to walk the earth, the rest of us are flawed. The flaws are what make us who we are, who we become, most importantly what we give back. I believe whoever gives freely from the heart is blessed and the cracks heal. You work hard everyday to support and educate, that’s beautiful to me not broken.
    M 🙂

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  5. Thank you for saying this. I shared something about my story on my blog this week that I wasn’t sure about, but you’re right… we can’t just tell the inspiring parts. We have to also share the pain that gets us to the truth. All of it is valid and we shouldn’t be ashamed of it. Thank you for driving that point home.
    Merry Christmas

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  6. Your post is so very hard hitting and true. It is often easier to minimize the true pain we feel and to gloss it up, sugar coat it, and retell the events like a funny story or a life lesson we are so grateful for learning. It is when we share the pain along with the humour and the life lesson that others “get” our experiences and feel free to truly share a few of their own. Please Keep writing honestly like this as it stirs up long buried hidden feelings in this reader, at least.

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