Chronic pain sufferers have attempted numerous alternative therapies and know what therapies have worked or not worked for them. Some people have been misinformed or merely misunderstand the daily battle and quite often unintentionally undermine the sufferer. In the spirit of informing those who wish to understand: These are some things that can help you to understand and help people who suffer from often debilitating, chronic pain.
Chronic pain sufferers spend the majority of their day in considerable pain.We often can’t enjoy things we once did. We remain aware, and desire to do what we used to perform.The chronic pain sufferer feels as if they are stuck inside a body in which they have little or no control. They still want to enjoy work, family, friends and leisure activities, however much pain puts that enjoyment out of reach, which of course leads to depression. Do not assume we are not experiencing pain when we say that we are fine. We attempt to hide the pain due to lack of understanding in others which happens way too often unfortunately . The words we may use to describe our pain is inadequate to what we may actually feel. Recall a time when you experienced pain, then multiply the intensity and attempt to imagine that pain present twenty-four hours a day, every day, without relief, and then think about this happening for the rest of your life! It’s hard to find the words for that sort of pain. The next best thing that you can do is to listen to us properly, and to make it clear that you both want to hear what needs to be said and that you really have heard it. Use your listening skills to decode what they’re hiding or minimizing.
On a personal note, I have been through not only physical, but emotional pain. The same goes for both trust me. I have dealt with many people that didn’t just not understand, but had no interest in learning about my issues. I have been called many things over the years that hurt, but you know what…that’s life. It made me stronger and who I am today. Eventually you will find someone who wants to understand. Always have hope. Educate yourself!